Tuesday, July 31, 2012

happiness versus a hefty savings account {a milspouse perspective}

By now I am sure many of you read this article that went viral. If not it basically gave 12 jobs that were "good" for military spouses. It went viral because the list looks like that of a college students job possbilities.
This article comes out at an intersting time in my life. I do not have a job. Well I take that back I do not have a steady paying job. I totally believe I have a job. I run an etsy shop, I have this blog, I write for other websites, I am working on a second website. But really none of these endveours pay the bills, yet.
Then there is this article by Molly Blake, a very amazing woman {and milspouse} I met last year at BlogHer. This article bascially sums up how I feel {and I am sure how many other milspouses feel}.

heaband: rellasbellas // necklace: charming charlie // top {really a dress/tunic}: old navy // belt & skirt: f21 // shoes: payless via my sweet friend tobi

Last July I quit my job. There were many reasons my husband and I decided this was the best decision for us. We knew it was not a permament thing. We had hoped the lack of work stress would help me to concieve a baby. Not the case as is evident by my lack of a baby bump. My husband is a wonderful man, who works harder than any man I know to provide for his family.  When it comes to things around the house and our life, those tasks are mine. He just does not know how to cook, it isn't something that is going to change any time soon. {if i wanted to eat a pasta dish of bowtie pasta and ramen noodles with alfredo sauce he would be the man for the job!} Therefore I find myself in a bit of a conundrome. I have a degree and am fully capable of finding some corparate job, working 40 plus hours a week and being mirsrable again so we can beef up our savings and buy a cabin on a lake. Or I can find a part time job doing something not so stressful, and allow myself to focus on my other endevours. Neither option is what I want.

I don't want to work full time, and I don't want to work some random part time gig. I wan to find a part time job that makes my heart happy. I want to work with an organziation that is helping to make this world a better place. Ideally I'd love to work for a military organzation to help military families. I want to be challegened in my job, I just can't committ to it being my full time gig. I want to help make this work a better place. I want to believe in what I am doing.

These are clearly big wishes. Some might think I am being picky, or spoiled. Maybe I am. But you know what, life is too short to go around wishing it could be different. I am not just going to wish for a miracle to happen. I am going to get my butt in gear and make my wish a reality. I can sit back and let the world pass me by or I can jump on the train and make sure I live the best possible life I can.


blm said...

You keep speaking to my heart, Jen! I am now at 2 months' unemployment, with extremely limited job options here in Japan. The only thing I know for certain is I want to do what's best for my family, myself, and I don't want to settle.

Beth @ dot...in the city said...

super cute outfit!
I hadn't seen that article about great jobs for military spouses...wow. They really wanna put y'all in a box, don't they? I hate that.
I think it's awesome you've been able to work on things your passionate about and have no doubt God is going to bless that for sure!

Anonymous said...

Jen...keep on doing what you're doing. Anything worth having is worth fighting for.

Stacey @flickerwhips said...

Good things come to those who wait!! You're in limbo right now, when you get settled, God will let you in on His plan!

Chelsea said...

Keep fighting for what you truly want. That's the only way you're going to be happy! If you guys have the means to do so, I say shoot for the stars :)

Tiffany said...

Keep fighting, searching, exploring! You'll find it!!!

caroline @ sew caroline said...

Jen-- Great words. I was in the same boat about a year ago. Just married, degree in hand with no job. I didn't want to climb the corporate ladder & be miserable with what I was doing so I found a job at a locally owned fabric boutique. That part time job has given me opportunities to teach classes, choose fabrics, create samples, etc. It was such a gift from the Lord! I am doing what I love to do! At times it is stressful, but a "good" stressful! :) Keep searching for something you truly L-O-V-E. The Lord WILL provide.

Lisa @ MMT said...

I love this post! I feel like I am in a similar position in life too, finding and doing what makes us happy.
It was so great getting to talk tonight! I look forward to more chats :)

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