Tuesday, January 15, 2013

reminding myself i am good enough and a few other confessions

I have a few confessions:

Sometimes I feel out of touch with the blogging world. 

I am not a mama, I don't have amazing DIY posts. I'm creative but such a perfectionist that I never want to share my DIYs because they don't look good enough or I can't photograph them the way I want. 

I have ADD and often times get all these ideas but never seem to carve out time to share them. 

I struggle with sharing content that is just from the heart and or adding in posts that seem to just be filler. I can't seem to find a balance. 

Lately it seems like the blogging world has become all about giveaways. I fell in love with the blogging world over 4 years ago because it was a place to get a glimpse into the life of others. To be inspired, encouraged and connect with others. Now I feel like it is about giveaways, sponorships and followers.

I read on a bloggers fb post recently that said they would rather have readers instead of followers. I have to agree. I want people to want to read my posts just as much{if not more} as I want people to follow my blog. 

2013 is going to be a busy year. I already have two work related travel trips in the next few weeks. Scott will be gone a lot for work and I want to focus on building my brand and myself. When I say my brand I don't mean rellas bellas, I mean me.  This blog is just one extension of me.  

I have some big dreams and goals for 2013, but in order for those dreams to become a reality I need to believe in myself more. I need to stop second guessing if I am good enough. I am more than good enough. 

Am I perfect, no. But what is the fun in perfection?  My friend Ashlee says she is reformed perfectionist, I too am going to take on that title. I need to stop thinking everything is going to fit in a box. Have you ever tried to stick a square peg into a round hole?? It won't happen, no matter how hard you try. If I keep trying to have this vision of everything needing to be perfect I will never achieve my dreams.

This year I will be attending more business meetings/lunches and events that require me to wear more business appropriate attire. I love taking boring office looks and making them a bit more "me".  

For a meeting I had last week I paired this simple plaid wool pencil skirt with a patterned ruffled button up under a scalloped edge shimmery sweater.  The shimmer in the sweater is very subtle and it allows only a bit of the patterned button up to peak out. Burgundy tights, camel color wedges, a pop of neon necklace and a bold red purse round out the look. 

 necklace: caroline g // sweater: gap // button up: anthro {thrifted} // skirt, tights and shoes: target // bang: vintage coach {thrifted}

***so crazy, 3 months from today {1/15} i turn 30!***


Laura said...

What a fantastic post from your heart! I feel the exact same way with the giveaways, sponsorship.. some days I think that's all its about. But then there are those posts, like these, that remind you of why you blog. To be inspired, to know there are other people out there who feel the same way you do. I for one, love your blog and love coming here from time to time. And I'm excited for you and your 2013 goals and dreams! Go get 'em!

Sara said...

I feel the same way girlie.

I've kind of distanced myself from the blogging world, and blog on my own terms. I don't do sponsoring or giveaways anymore, because not only is it a tedious process, after a while your blog will become more about "the other folks" and promoting, and less about "you". To be honest, I skip right over sponsorship posts. Promoting fellow bloggers is great and all, but I truly come to a blog to learn about the author!

With this newfound attitude, blogging has become what it was supposed to be to begin with: a hobby. Not a chore.

I may not always comment on blog posts, but I do read them!

Holly McDonald said...

Great post from the heart! I have set one of my goals for this year to focus back on content and build readers, not just followers. It's so easy to lose track of your voice in the constant noise of giveaways and endless link parties.

I'm excited to see how you progress through your goals and to hear more! Thank you for the inspiration today!


Louise said...

Great post! I agree with you. Sometimes I get sucked up in how competitive the blogging world can be and forget why I started my blog in the first place, to have fun and be creative! Thanks for the reminder ;)

xx Louise
A Little Beauty Luxury

Anonymous said...

Loved this post. For so many reasons. Here's to readers!

and, p.s., I adore the outfit.

Bethany Reine' said...

i love your blog! and your little bag :)

Bernadette Veenstra said...

I love your blog, Jen. And I love you too! You have an amazing heart! I am not a fan of giveaways or sponsor posts. I think if I am going to promote someone, it is going to be through tweets and FB shares. Sharing of their content, and their heart. Not what they wrote for my blog.

Christine said...

I know how you feel - I feel "out of touch" with the blogging world at times, as well. In comparison to the blogs I follow, mine is pretty boring! I do post a lot of things just about me, and that might be why I don't have very many followers/readers. But hey, I enjoy the posts I make and I think that's all that matters :). And for the record, I love your blog!

kateprs said...

I used to think giveaways were a blogger's way of saying "thanks for following me!" ... but now I wonder if it's just a way to get more followers, rather than appreciate the ones one already has. Anyway, I love your look! I am new to your blog, but look forward to future posts :)

Kate @ A Journey in Style

brittany z said...

loved your post today lady. agreed, much rather have readers vs followers. for me, I love to write. always have. so having readers is very wonderful to me.

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