Tuesday, April 15, 2014

hello 31, I think we'll be friends

Today marks the first day of 31.  When I was in my 20s I thought I would be one of those people who had a hard time adjusting to the idea of being a 30-something.  Thankfully I am not, 30s rock! 

shirt: Banana Republic // skirt: H&M // 
shoes: Matisse footwear via DSW // bracelet: Tiffany & Co. 

I'll tell anyone who will listen, I loved being 30. My 20s weren't bad, but I think we all had our years of being a hot mess. I know a lot of friends who are turning 30 this year or the next and are having a hard time dealing with it. My advice, stop thinking about the plans you had. 

We all had plans to become the first woman president, be a CEO, have our own business, have 2.5 kids, and a house with a white picket fence. No one is living the life they dreamed about when they were 18. I think if you sat down and wrote out all that you've accomplished you'd realize you've lived a pretty amazing life and are probably doing things you never even dreamed about! 

Don't waste your time comparing your life to the life you thought you'd have or to others. If you still feel like you aren't where you should be then use 30 as an opportunity to making changes. Make 30 the year you start that job, go back to school, loose the weight. {this advice applies to any age!}

It was as if turning 30 flipped a switch in my head.  I no longer cared what others thought, I did things for me.  I didn't worry that someone would think I was uncool or not smart.  My focus went from trying to make others like me and think I was amazing to instead showing myself I was amazing and being happy in my own skin.  


I could have very easily let turning 30 be a time to commiserate about all that I wanted to do by 30 but did not accomplish.  Instead I choose to focus on the things that I never thought I would do. 

I am exactly where I need to be.  

I never thought we would have bought a house at 30.  

I never thought I would be working from home doing a job many people dream about.  

I never thought I would be living in the south in our 100 year old house.  

I never thought I would love living in the south so much, I think I'm turning into a southern belle! 

I never thought I would be in the best shape of my life and addicted to hot yoga. 

Instead of focusing on all of these amazing opportunities God has given me I could focus on what I don't have at 30, children.  Thankfully I am 100% happy with where Scott and I are on our journey to becoming parents.  I was really hoping to be pregnant for this deployment, but I can tell you with 100% certainty I am happy I am not.  I know it would have been a difficult thing to do alone and with all of my infertility issues I would have been going to many appointments alone and doing it by myself does not seem ideal.  I know many amazing women do go through an entire pregnancy and give birth while their husband is deployed, but seeing that we have spent almost 4 years trying to start a family if I am able to get pregnant I think it is something I want Scott to be around for.  

After 4 years of trying I just want us to grow our family.  The desire and need to be pregnant is no longer there, instead the focus is on little fingers and toes in our house, however God wants that to happen.  I want to see my sweet handsome husband holding our baby, and however we are blessed with that baby is at God's will and that is exactly where I want to be.  

2 comments:

Four Marrs and One Venus said...

Can I get an AMEN?! AMEN Sista! my sweet soul southern belle sista! 30's DO rock..I will tell you that- coming from the mouth of a 35 -EEEK year old! Girl. you are on the path of greatness- keep rocking it OUT! Hope to see your face sooner than later! Big Smooch coming atcha! XO

Amanda McCellon said...

Amen & amen! Really amazing advice. And I'm so excited and happy that you are at peace with the infertility struggle. I know when I let go of the anger and resentment- I knew exactly the plan God has for us. We go to complete our second step in the adoption the last weekend of this month. And I can only think about a baby to raise with my hubby- I could care less how it gets to us!

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